If someone’s using “relationship anarchy” as a get-out-of-jail card for poly problems, they’re full of shit. RA doesn’t absolve you of responsibility. It doesn’t exempt you from accountability, consent, or honoring boundaries, agreements, and commitments. The whole point of RA is choosing your own relationship structures based on what the people involved actually agree to—not “no rules,” not “I do whatever I want,” and definitely not “your feelings are your problem.” RA is about mutual respect,